10 reasons why you are not making friends

Ever wondered why some people find your vibes negative or repulsive. You met some one and feel eager to meet person again but you don't seem to be getting the same enthusiastic response? 

Well, not everyone is meant to be a part of your circle, but it is also worth knowing if you are unknowingly repulsing someone:

1. I, me and myself: Replay the last conversation with a friend or an acquaintance in your mind. How much do you think you got to know about the other person or his/her life. Very less? Be sure you have focusing too much on yourself and nobody likes to mingle with a narcissist. Best to focus on "We".
2. Eye contact: Do you keep moving your eyes around to see the surroundings while listening to people? Don't do this. Your eye movement will only distract the speaker and he/she might interpret that as your lack of interest in the conversation. 
3. Hygiene: While some people in your life may have accepted your lack of regard for hygiene, don't expect this from others. Having an untidy or dishevelled appearance is one of the biggest turnoff.  
4. Cry Baby : Need a shoulder to cry? Cry as much as you want with a close loved one but don't expect people outside your circle to stay patient with you as you repeat your sob story. On the other hand, a dash of humor is always helpful in keeping the conversations light and interesting. 
5. Verbal diarrhea: Do you suffer from verbal diarrhea? Not everyone can match your pace and energy of talking. If you keep talking without allowing the other person to come in and contribute to the conversation, then you are leaving the other person high and dry. Step back and listen too. Allow the conversation to build two ways. 
   
   
   
   
   
6. Criticism: Oh you love gossip and you will not miss an opportunity to criticize that common friend or colleague of yours. While limited gossip is healthy and is a stress buster, don't make it a habit. Engage in constructive criticism if you have to. But too much or too frequent criticism will lend a negative energy to your personality.  
7. Tense body language: Don't be tense or anxious. Stay relaxed and  smile. And keep that spine straight!
8. Mannerisms: Do you have a habit of digging your nose or itching your scalp? While some mannerisms are harmless, there are some which can be pretty distasteful. And please STOP digging that nose!
9. Where's the lie? If you leave the other person wondering about this, then you may not have come across as your authentic self. Stay as authentic as possible. Not only will the other person appreciate your genuineness, but he/she may also be motivated to be as authentic as possible with you. And you never know then...a long and solid friendship may be awaiting you. 
10. Perspectives: If you meet someone for the first time, try not get into arguments. Understand that people have their opinions and while you may not agree, you do not need to be confrontational and aggressive. Politely counter the views but don't argue!

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